Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Confidence vs. Humility

I want to be a confident leader. I want to know where I'm leading, and lead people well. I don't want people to wonder. I don't want those I lead to feel like Nexus is going somewhere and that it's not confusing and drifting. I want to be humble. I don't want to ever think I've arrived. I always want to be "in process." I want to open to ideas and new ways of doing things. I want to be flexible. I hate it when people tell me that I'm intimidating. I hate it when people feel like they can't voice their opinions to me for fear of hurting my feelings. So how do confidence and humility coexist? I think sometimes people mistake confidence for arrogance. (I think sometimes I mistake confidence for arrogance.)

3 comments:

Pie said...

I guess arrogance is assuming you are correct and confidence is having something to back it up.

If you are confident in an assumption, you will have researched and studied it. I guess the humility comes in there - learning that many things you assumed to be correct turn out to be quite the opposite.

randy said...

it seems to me that humility will be sensed when, in our confidence, we truly love people. not an easy thing to do at times... especially when people work against us and our plans.

it also comes from remembering where we came from, who we are... and aren't... truly believing that other people are just as important as we are...

but i think most of all... when in our confidence we continue to seek G*D for fine tuning and clarification... rather than assuming we understood our marching orders completely the first time they were given.

just my opinion...

Tony Myles said...

When you know you are humble, you aren't.

When you know you are arrogant, you are.

Odd tension.