Friday, June 16, 2006

Gossip?

I read this in a book called The Four Obsessions of an Extraordinary Executive by Patrick Lencioni (one of my heroes!). He's talking about building good leadership teams and he writes, Talking about a colleague who is not present is not gossip. Gossip requires the intent to hurt someone, and it is almost always accompanied by an unwillingness to confront a person directly with the information being discussed. Ironically, members of cohesive teams are not overly concerned about the prospect of their collegues' discussing them in their absense because they know it is in he best interest of the team. They trust each other, and know that true gossip will not be tolerated. Sometimes, I struggle with the line between gossip & talking about someone in healthy ways...this helps me.

4 comments:

Beth B. said...

if it is uplifting or something you would say to the person face to face.....i think it is fine. gossip is one of those things we can talk ourselves into though. trust your instincts. if you feel uncomfortable, don't do it.

Anonymous said...

I see you didn't waste any time starting the book! - Katie

Eric T. said...

i think you should just rename your blog "books i've read, and exceprts from them."

Dave said...

Patrick Lencioni spoke at the Willow Arts conference I was at this week. It was a great time, probably my favorite speaker.